In the first post of this series, we talked about whether you were in a good place to help your friend. Now you’re ready to learn how.
Listener vs. Helper:
When people share their problems, we often feel the need to solve them. Even if your heart is in the right place, this might not be what they want or need. Ask your friend whether they want you to give advice, be a listening ear, or simply spend time with them when they’re doing something that makes them anxious.
Listening actively, encouraging them, and spending time together is likely all they need. How you treat them is in your control. Fixing their problem is not. So, focus on what’s in your control.
- Listen patiently, without interrupting, so your friend knows you understand what they’re going through.
- Spend time doing something fun or calming to get them out of their head for a bit.
- Are they struggling with something that comes more easily to you? Pair up with them to help them through it. Encourage them with supportive words or just by letting them know you’re there for them.
In our next post we’ll share more about what to do when your friend’s problem feels too big for you to handle alone. If you need help right away, here are some additional resources:
- For more information about anxiety: click here
- For immediate support, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. It’s free and confidential support for people in crisis. They can help connect you to local resources. 988Lifeline.org · For LGBTQIA+ Teens: TrevorLifeline, Crisis intervention and suicide prevention phone service for LGBTQ+ youth available 24/7/365, Call 1-866-488-7386
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